If HUMILITY is to think of others as better than me, what happens to my SELF-ESTEEM?
I was having my devotions this morning. The title for the day was ‘it’s all about him’.
The author was on about how no one else’s name counts in life except God. Therefore, we should learn to be humble because “with the same intensity God hates pride, he loves humility.” This person then went on to give tips on how we can be humble, and he quoted Romans 12:3-4 in a very hip-version (i have to find that Bible). It reads, “don’t cherish exaggerated ideas of yourself…but try to have a sane estimate of your capabilities.”
My NLV says of the same passage, “…dont think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.”
The part of the daily devotional that struck me was his quote and explanation of Phillipians 2:3, “…don’t try to impress others. be humble and think of others as better than yourselves.” I cross-checked just to be extra-certain, and the Bible really says that.
I immediately picked my phone and Instant Messaged a friend whose understanding of the word has garnered my respect. My question was – if I should really obey that command, won’t my self-esteem suffer?
Humility is a tough call for humans because it is not just our nature. Pride, the absolute opposite, was our innate sinful nature until Christ died for us. I was told a story of how when I was a baby still feeding on the bottle, I was very hungry and my aunty or mum rubbed the feeder on my lips and withdrew it about 3 times. By the 3rd tease, they said I exploded and kicked the bottle out of her hands. We were born sinners!
All of the above are the background knowledge we may already have, so back to the question. How does your self-esteem fit into being humble? The first thing that came to my mind as I pondered on this question was that mere fact that your self-esteem may be hurt in obeying this commandement shows that pride may still have a seed and field of play in our lives.
Let me break this down, if I feel my self-esteem will be low if I think of others as better than myself, then perhaps, that has become a case of wounded pride. This also translates to mean that, I would not be practising humility whole-heartedly.
It became impressed upon me that, when I think of others as better than myself, I am not casting myself down, I am only appreciating the fact that without JESUS, I am absolutely nothing. So whatever I am now is by the grace of God. That should be our motto for everyday living.
Share your thougts with me on this issue of humility. To comment, scroll to the top of the post. Stay blessed.
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