So folks, where exactly lies the problem? At whose feet really do we lay the blame? Jemima, a good Christian girl who always seem to find ‘bad boys’ appealing?
Or is it Tunde, the sweet, cute, glasses wearing Church pianist whose idea of a perfect time together would be drinking cups of tea whilst flipping through the Bible to see how many times ‘begat’ appears?
This is the age-long question which no 0ne has managed to satisfactorily answer: WHY DO GOOD GIRLS LIKE BAD GUYS? Why do they long after the guy who looks like a hooligan and ignore the well dressed one? Why do they What exactly would make a good girl decide that another good guy just doesn’t cut it for her? I have a friend, Lade, who told me that good and sweet guys are synonymous to boring. There was a certain umph and je ne sais quoi they lacked, no matter how hard they tried. If Lade is right and we take her reasoning to its logical conclusion, does that mean that Christianity is boring? Does that mean that worldly music sounds more fun than gospel ones? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
I think that as the scripture has declared, “[T]he children of this world are in their generation wiser than the children of light” (Luke 16:8). This is applicable to the Jemimas of this world who prefer a man who has no respect for them to one who would love and cherish them. A friend of mine told me that the Jemimas are those girls who have been shown God but who have not really discovered Him themselves. So maybe their parents forced God on them therefore, at the slightest chance, they want to escape anything remotely confining. They want to experience life. Sadly, they usually get burned.
It is also applicable to the Tundes of our time who spend all their time locked up in the heavenly realm and forget to HAVE A LIFE! Even Jesus went to dinners (with Zaccheus Luke 19:1-10). He went to wedding parties and even supplied the drinks (John 2:1-11). He had fun with kids (Luke 18:16). He was not a boring person. I would hate to be with a boring man. I certainly would. Therefore I can sympathise with girls who have been bored out of their wits with such guys.
Another possible reason is due to low self esteem. Why else will a girl prefer a guy who cheats, lies and even hits her? When a girl values herself and holds herself with high regard. She will require others to do the same. You have to know that you are worthy of being treated with kindness and respect.
So there you have it! Our views on the issue. What do you think guys? Why exactly do good girls like bad guys?
Joint post by Tomexy and Temiville.