I open this solemn post with a huge **SIGH**.
If I were to draft an FAQ page (frequently asked questions) for God’s website, a top question would be “God, how do I deal with the pain?”
A lot of people are going through pains – of betrayal, defeat, heartbreak, failure, loss of a loved one, sickness and more. Just because they don’t wear it on their faces doesn’t mean it’s not there. Someone once said to me, “no one can see what is going on in your mind, they can only see your face, so put up your best front.” Then I realised that we may have perfected the act of bottling up the pain inside while we maintain an ever-smiling mask. It is dangerous.
Pain breeds sickness and it kills. You don’t believe me? – let’s check out Proverbs 15:13 & Proverbs 17:22.
15:13 – A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.
17:22 – A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones
*clears throat* When the bone is dry, I doubt if we’ll still be talking about a living being. My point is, it is not healthy to hold on to pain however bitter-sweet it may seem. If you agree, let’s move on, if you don’t…gimme a second to skabash*
The answer to every life-issue is in the Bible. The Bible itself has told us that there is nothing new under the sun. See this simple exercise:
ISSUE1: Romantic Relationship heartbreaks/divorce: Ask Queen Vashti how she felt when King Xerxes ordered her to come parade her beauty before his drunk officials for them to swoon over. Even worse, how she felt when out of his anger for her disobedience he took the throne away from her and gave it to a non-indegne girl, Esther (one of my favourite Bible characters by the way). I’m a woman, I know that was raw pain in action!
ISSUE2: Friendships & Betrayals: Our dear Lord Jesus and the infamous Judas Iscariot is an epic example. Just because he is Jesus does not mean he was immune to the human feeling of betrayal. He felt pain just like we do because he became flesh to be able to bear our sins.
ISSUE3: Unwanted/Unloved by your family: Ask Joseph who was hated by his brothers, sold off to slavery yet became Prime Minister in a foreign land.
I can go on and on with examples, but I am sure you catch the picture already. Yes, there is pain n life, but Jesus paid the price to take that pain away a long time ago if you would key into his modus operandi (aahh finally I use this word,lol). By modus operandi, I mean his mode of operation.
HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAIN:
STEP 1: Forgive the source of the pain, including yourself, if you are the culprit in this case.
Let’s have a little philosophy class in here. I’m sure you’ve come across the popular saying that, “good things don’t come easy” right? If it isn’t easy to FORGIVE, don’t you think there must be something incredibly good about FORGIVING. Jesus implores us to forgive our brothers in Matt 5:44 & 45. He says, “…Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven…” In Matt 18:21-35, Jesus talks about forgiving our brother 70×7 times if he hurts us and so on. Lack of forgivness not only keeps the pain and makes it multiply, it renders your worship and service to God utterly useless. Therefore, if you are looking for a selfish reason to motivate you into letting go of the pain – I just gave you one.
STEP 2: Surrender the pain to Jesus
This is easier to do once you’ve forgiven the source of the pain. In fact, it is almost simultaneous. as you let forgiveness wash over you, Jesus instantly steps in to take the pain away – because only then would he have the legal right to do so.
STEP3: Fill the vacant hole with Jesus through the Holy Spirit
There is a bitter-sweet feeling in holding on to past wrongs that have caused us pain. It feels good and painful at the same time to recount those experiences in your mind, shake your head and then drown yourself in a pool of pity. When you surrender it all to Jesus, it then gets tempting to call them back because you suddenly realise you have nothing to mull over anymore. This is where you should invite the Holy Spirit of God to take over. If you lost your father, tell Jesus to take his place. If it’s pain caused by heartbreak of a boyfriend or girlfriend, this is the point where Jesus becomes your most cherished lover. Make Jesus your best friend where friends have betrayed you.
On a endnote, it is not God’s wish that we should be experience pain. It is only a part of life that is so difficult to dodge. However, God himself has said in Isaiah 43:2 that “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.”
When next you are faced with a situation, tell it to its face, that “THERE IS NO PAIN MY GOD CANNOT HANDLE”.
This is Gospel Metropolitan!
*skabash – a nigerian lingo for speaking in tongues| photo credit google images